Happy Chinese New Year 2011

Tomorrow many Asian countries will celebrate the first day of the Chinese New Year – the most important of the traditional Chinese holidays. The festivities start on the first day of the first month in the traditional Chinese calendar and end 15 days later with the Lantern Festival.

2011 is the Year of the Golden Rabbit. The rabbit is a lucky sign and according to Chinese belief the rabbit brings a year which allows you to relax and to take a deep breath after the fierce Year of the Tiger. It is a great year to focus on relationships, family and friends as well as your personal goals and desires.

If you are interested in Chinese Astrology and want to know more about the Rabbit and what our floppy eared friend predicts for 2011, check out one of the following resources:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese_new_year

http://www.stanssewingsupplies.com/catalogs/store.asp?pid=253080

http://www.chinesezodiac.com/rabbit.php

http://www.theholidayspot.com/chinese_new_year/more_zodiacs/rabbit.htm

No matter what the New Year has in store for you, I am wishing you lots of love, good luck, and  health!

XOXO,

Nomi

Books that will turn you on

It’s pretty cold outside! And how could you relax better than by cuddling up in bed and reading an erotic book and then trying everything you read about with your partner or indulge in some sexy solo play? I can assure you, those cold long winter nights will soon become pretty hot!! 😉

Here are some of my favorite picks when it comes to luscious stories and techniques that are guaranteed to turn you on:

Lust: Erotic Fantasies for Women by Violet Blue

Who can live without lust? All day and night, our minds run through delicious possibilities — a silky hand beckoning us into the VIP lounge; a stranger in the backseat; the hunky FedEx driver bringing his package to the door — not to mention our own lascivious memories. Lust is a collection of erotica by and for women, a fierce and joyous celebration of female desire — and the triple-X trouble it gets us into. In Kay Jaybee’s “Tied to the Kitchen Sink,” a birthday boy finds his present — nude except for tall, high-heeled boots — happily devoted to domestic duties. Maria Grigoriadis’ “Pleasant Surprise” shows what can happen when you knock on the wrong apartment door — without your panties. And Bonnie Dee’s “Ripe Fruit” teasingly elaborates the sweet, sticky encounter of a soap opera idol and a fruit-stand employee on a stretch of rural roadside.

Girls on Top: Explicit Erotica for Women by Violet Blue

Prolific editrix Violet Blue presents another blazing hot set of erotic shorts by women, for women.  This commanding collection shows how exciting life can be when a woman takes control of her own pleasure, as in S.J. Frost’s “Quarterbacking,” an inspiring tale of first time girl-on-top domination.  Foot fetishism and saucy teasing meet in Elizabeth Colvin’s “High Heels.”  B.J. Franklin’s portrayal of gripping group sex in “The Hostage” and the delectable exhibitionism in Virgie Tovar’s “New York Peep Show” feature women who break all the rules to get off.  Filled with surprises, unexpected twists, and arousing confessionals, Girls on Top confirms that anything is possible when a girl wants, takes, gets!

Luscious: Stories of Anal Erotica by Alison Tyler and Tristan Taormino

A celebration of anal sex! With 27 stories by today’s hottest authors, telling us tales of all the ins and outs of this popular and sometimes secret sexual practice. Anal sex isn’t so dirty, especially when you are into making someone’s butt feel so good! Talk of toys, boys, strapping it on, licking it up and more are all included in this collection.

Tickle Your Fancy: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Self-Pleasure by Sadie Allison

A fabulous bite-sized yet complete ‘how-to’ guide to women’s self-pleasure. This fun, guilt-free book details much about paddling the pink canoe- including anatomy, fantasy, orgasms, tools and techniques, anal play, sex toys, and safety.

Toygasms: An insider’s guide to sex toys and techniques by Sadie Allison

From the author of Tickle Your Fancy, comes a guide to choosing and using the best toys for you and your lover. Plus, it includes ways to use them that maximize your pleasure. This pocket-sized and easy to read book covers all the basics of using toys.

The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn by Violet Blue

Acclaimed sex educator Violet Blue tells women how to find porn they’ll like, from favorite turn-ons and women-friendly DVDs to Podcasts and porn groups on the web. She shows how to reconcile fantasy with real-life desires, and how smart girls can maintain their own beauty standards when the people on screen seem impossibly buff, smooth, and surgically enhanced. Looking for authentic sex scenes? Thinking of sharing porn with a lover? Wonder which browser is safest for Internet porn surfing? This book has the answers.

How To Tell A Naked Man What To Do by Candida Royalle

After 20 years making adult films from a female perspective, Candida Royalle knows how to tell a naked man what to do. This fun, highly readable guide, by the director known for her women-friendly porn (StudHunters, Eyes of Desire, Caribbean Heat), will help you make sure your lover knows how to please you every time.

Bedroom Games: Stripteases, seductions and other surprises to keep your partner coming back for more by Mary Taylor

The lights are low. Your favorite sultry tunes are playing quietly in the background. A scented candle is burning. Your man sits in the center of the room, eagerly awaiting the surprise you’ve been planning for weeks. Slowly, you make your entrance, dressed in a little black number you bought on the sly. As his jaw drops you slink toward him, moving to the rhythm of the music. And the night has only just begun.

Former exotic dancer Mary Taylor offers a wealth of advice for women on how to cast aside their insecurities and inhibitions. Full of tips on choosing the right time, setting, music, lighting, costume, and persona, and step-by-step instructions on basic and more advanced striptease moves, Bedroom Games is your key to turning your (and his!) most secret sexual fantasies into reality and giving the man in your life a night he won’t soon forget!

The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy: How to Turn Your Fantasies Into Reality by Violet Blue

Whether you’re looking for an endless supply of fantasy ideas or expert advice for a playful, imaginative sex life that turns you both on, this charming and information-packed book will tell you exactly what you need to know:

* Role-play: hot, dramatic sex without feeling silly
* How to have a threesome—without jealousy
* How to have sex in public
* Thrilling S/M scenarios
* Racy sex games for lovers
* How to strip, lap dance, talk dirty
* Make your own porn and erotic photographs

Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas

Tantric sex is a making quite the impression upon many – both those drawn to the spiritual connection between sexuality and physicality and those simply looking for new sensations. Within Urban Tantra, readers will find excellent techniques, meditations, helpful drawings, info about the basics of Tantra, and how modern lovers can apply all these ideas in their busy lives. If Tantric sex has always piqued your interest, but the new age-y aspects seemed too much, Urban Tantra is a great resource to satisfy your curiosities and give you practical information to get your soul flying!

Your Orgasmic Pregnancy by Danielle Cavallucci and Yvonne Fulbright

Here’s the inside scoop on sex during pregnancy:  It can be passionate, painless and completely safe!  During these magical nine months, you’ll develop luscious new curves and boast a heightened libido and an increased ability to orgasm.  So don’t be misled by old taboos and myths: Sex while you’re pregnant can be the best you’ve ever had.

Danielle Cavallucci, a pregnancy fitness specialist, has partnered with noted sexologist Yvonne Fulbright to bring pregnant women and their partners this potent brew of tips and techniques for intimacy and great sex.  The authors discuss: safe sexual techniques; how to spice it up with toys, lingerie and erotica; sexy alternatives to intercourse; and ways for a Hot Mama to love herself.

For partners, the book offers tips and suggestions to help keep up with their pregnant partner’s progress, embrace her changes and share in the steamy fun between the sheets.  Throughout the book, Cavallucci and Fulbright prescribe a “love yourself” mindset that emphasizes a positive attitude, confident intercourse and making pregnancy a “growing” experience in more ways than one.

Enjoy reading, and make sure to leave your books lying around, so that your partner can have a look, too, and share your new wisdom! 😉

Yours,

Nomi Tang

It’s Black Friday…

There are several versions of Black Friday. Most of them involve some disastrous event such as the Wall Street crash from 1929 or devastating bush fires in Australia. I’m a really positive, optimistic person, so I’ll go for the version of Black Friday that is marking the beginning of the traditional Christmas shopping season: Black Friday as the Friday following Thanksgiving.

The term “Black Friday” is used to refer to the beginning of the period in which retailers go from being in the red to being in the black. Often they do this by promoting special deals and heavy discounts, and opening for as long as 24 hours the day, to draw maximum customer traffic into their stores. It’s basically a shopaholic’s paradise. 😉

Well, Christmas is still quite far away, but why not start shopping early to avoid the last minute gift buying stress?

When it comes to gift shopping, I always choose something personal, that makes the receiver feel that there is an emotional connection between us. By giving, I want to make the other feel that I care about him / her, and that I took some time to think about what would make him / her feel valued.

True luxury is taking the time to enjoy, the time to savor the moment. That’s why my favorite gifts are things that you have to use in a leisurely activity. This can range from books, especially cookbooks, via sporting equipment to tickets for events. Of course, my favorite gifts are sex toys. I guess the activity part of it is pretty obvious. Moreover, Christmas is still about expressing feelings such as friendship, love and appreciation of life. And sex toys actually do bring people closer together if used as a couple, and they are also a way of expressing love for oneself. Most of the time, I offer them together with a sensual accessory, such as massage gel or lubricant (tangerine, chocolate and vanilla are the best Christmas flavors ever!) or scented candles.

If you are not sure about what to offer, the “better than chocolate” is a sure bet for beginners, while “getaway” might be more attractive to people who have already experimented with toys before.

To get some more inspiration, consult the gift guides many online sex shops publish on the internet.

Yours,

Nomi Tang

How to let your partner know you love him without actually saying it

Talk is cheap, that’s how the saying goes. Well, I am a big fan of honest couple communication, but I also like creativity and surprises. So why not take this year’s Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to say “I love you” without actually pronouncing it?

Here are some ideas of how to do it (works for both him and her):

– Leave a little note in his coat pocket. Remind him of a funny situation you had together, or tell him what you like most about him.

– Deliver his favorite food to his office – in person. Have a break together but respect if he is in a lack of time.

– In the old days I would have recommended to record a mix tape with songs that are linked to good memories that you two share with each other. Nowadays, why not make it a USB stick? Or even better, hide a playlist on his iPod, or send him a song via e-mail when he least expects it.

– Flirt with him. Forget that you have been a couple for so long (or maybe not so long) and relive the time when you first met and got to know each other. Make him compliments, pay him a drink, and dance with him. Shyly take his hand and let him wait to be kissed.

– Fulfill one of his sexual fantasies. In case you don’t know about any, just offer him to be his mistress (or slave?) for one night. Agree on a code word to interrupt your play at any time.

– Give him a sensual massage. You can either use massage oil that you warm up before use, or a lubricant. Lube is especially nice if you choose one with a nice scent or even taste. For the more adventurous among you, there are massage candles. The wax does not get too hot, so you can let the candle drop on your bodies and use the warm wax for a sexy massage.

– Offer your partner a calendar with sexy photos of yourself. A classic, I know, but it’s not only going to make him happy, but will also boost your ego. 😉

– Get a tattoo with your lover’s name – a fake one, of course! Your partner will be flattered, but probably also flattered you did not go for a real one.

So now that you have plenty of inspiration, get creative!

Love,

Nomi

How to masturbate | Enjoy yourself!

Orgasms are great! And most women achieve this delightful feeling more easily while masturbating than having sex with a partner. But let’s face it, whereas male masturbation is considered to be “normal” and maybe even necessary for the boys to “let off steam”, female masturbation still remains a taboo in wide parts of today’s society. Sometimes it’s seen as dirty, a stopgap for single women, or even a betrayal of the partner.

In my mind, masturbation is natural – as generally nobody teaches us how to do it, and we still end up discovering the pleasures of solo play sooner or later in our lives. Neither do I see masturbation as a substitute for sex – or sex as a substitute for masturbation. Masturbation can rather enhance your sexual experience with your partner, as you get to know your body, explore your erogenous zones and start developing fantasies. You will be able to guide your partner while having sex with him, and make it an even more pleasurable experience for both of you.

Especially for women who have difficulties to orgasm, solo play is a nice way to train the ability to practice how to get there with a partner. And the best part about it: The journey is the reward. 😉

So, no matter if you are a regular self-pleaser or a newcomer, here are some hints how to make masturbating a really good experience:

– Make sure you are warm (literally, I mean) and comfortable, find a nice spot where no one will disturb or interrupt you (except if you like that little thrill), and chose a situation where you have plenty of time.

– To create a personal cozy atmosphere, dim the light, light some candles, dispense relaxing essential oils and put on music you like.

– Begin by touching yourself all over, paying careful attention to the areas of the body that are most sensitive. Try arching your back, fondling your breasts, or clenching and rubbing your thighs together.

– Once you’re turned on, you probably feel ready for genital stimulation.

– Move your fingers closer towards your vagina. Don’t rush and explore the outer and inner vaginal lips. If you are not sure where your clitoris is, run your finger along the inside of the vaginal lips, up toward your navel. The clitoris is protected under a hood of skin, and most women do not enjoy directly touching the clitoral glans because it is very sensitive.

– Experiment with different methods of touching yourself: rub or stroke the shaft of your clitoris, massage the labia, use your fingers as a V-shape sliding up and down. Alternate between stimulating your vagina and your clitoris, between making circles and linear movements, and between different levels of pressure.

– Maybe you would like to position a mirror in a way that you can watch yourself and appreciate the attractiveness a sexual partner would see?

– Try to add some variation to your solo play: change the position and try different toys.

– Try new places. How about a nice bubble bath? Or a place where you could be spotted, such as a restaurant bathroom?

– Once you feel comfortable touching yourself, why not let your partner watch you while doing so? I promise you he will be turned on and maybe not even let you finish by ourself, but take over 😉

I bet, once you have tried experimenting, you will be able to add infinite ideas to that list. Actually, if you would like to do so, just leave a comment! 🙂

And never forget: Masturbation is sex with a person you love.

Yours,

Nomi