To be honest, I can’t think of any reason for being embarrassed when buying sex toys. After all, it’s human to seek pleasure, isn’t it?
But unfortunately, many people still perceive it as a taboo, even in today’s society. So if you do not feel confident enough to walk straight into a boutique, shop around a bit and leave with a bag full of toys, here are some tips to make the “first time” easier for you.
– The most obvious hint is probably to go shopping with a good friend of yours, and once you pass by a sex shop you make a joke about having a look inside. I bet, your friend will just be as curious as you are. Once inside, make fun of the really strange items you might find. Touch them to get a feel for the material. You will discover that there are also more and more designer toys, which might actually surprise you. So when you find something you like, take it with a smile and ask your friend what she / he is going to choose.
– Visit a nice store rather than one of the classic sex shops that make most of their sales on porn movies and often have video cabins inside the store. Search the internet for combined lingerie and toy boutiques, often managed by women, that have a friendly and open atmosphere and a selection of the best designer toys in different price ranges. As they do not only sell sex toys, you have a good “excuse” (if you really need one) for going there.
– If it makes you more confident, have a look at the wide variety of toys online before you go to a real shop. Get a feel for what kind of toy you are interested in and read some reviews. You can also write down any questions you might have, so that you have a starting point for a conversation with one of the sales people in the store.
– In the store, make eye contact with the sales person that seems the most likeable to you. Be honest about being a newbie to the field and ask for recommendations. In many cases, you will be surprised how knowledgeable and friendly sales staff in adult boutiques actually can be.
– Bring a big handbag. Unfortunately, the cliché of brown plastic bags still remains true in many sex shops (at least the classic ones), so it’s a good idea to bring your own bag. Or simply have the toy gift-wrapped! 😉
– Of course, there are not only physical stores where you can buy sex toys. A fun alternative are toy parties, a concept that is becoming really popular in many countries. It basically means that you invite some friends over for a girls’ night-in, and a sales girl comes along to present to you various toys of different brands. Afterwards you can immediately place your order in all privacy and the toys will be delivered to you within a few days.
– If you still feel too embarrassed to go to a shop or throw a party, you can still shop online. The disadvantage here is that you cannot feel the material of the toys and might not be sure about the dimensions as well as the different speeds and vibration patterns. However, of course, it’s still better than not buying any sex toy at all and missing out on all these amazing orgasms! ;-). However, more and more websites also link to reviews by actual users where you can read about the pros and cons of many products on the market.
So, don’t forget to put a nice little something for yourself on your next shopping list!
Yours,
Nomi Tang
Nomi Tang 