Erogenous zones – The most pleasurable spots on your body

We all heard about them – but you might still be wondering where exactly these famous erogenous zones are on your and your partner’s body, and how to stimulate them in order to get high.

The erogenous zones I will point out for you in a second are generally the same for all humans. However, attempts at stimulating someone may or may not work depending on their personal sensitivity. Depending on previous experiences or cultural circumstances, some might even have adverse reactions. So while drawing your personal map of pleasure, keep communicating.

It will possibly drive you and your partner equally crazy if you lightly touch each other’s inner thighs, and you probably knew that already. However, it may come as a bit of a surprise for both of you, that women are really sensitive behind the knees! Also commonly recognized are the buttocks. Contrary to most other erogenous zones, stimulation can be a bit rougher here. Ask your partner to squeeze or softly spank your bum. If you are in the mood, you might even try anal sex (protection is crucial here to prevent unpleasant infections!).

To return the favor, try touching his P-spot, the perineum (the area between the scrotum and the anus), to heighten the intensity of his orgasm. Another hot spot on your body is the neck. It works well together with sexy promises whispered in your ear and a tight grip on your hair to give you that “I want you sooooo badly!” feel. I bet you know what I’m talking about? 😉 And how about making him a little love bite as a souvenir of your hot play?

The soles of the feet are by far the most tickly area of many people’s body. Either you love being caressed there – or you hate it. However, the feet offer far more than just the sole to play around with! Do also pay attention to the toes – especially the toe tips. When it comes to hands, the finger tips are the most sensitive body part after the tongue! Many women also like being touched and kissed on the wrists, a fact that most men (and women!) ignore.

The three last erogenous zones I will mention are the classics: Breasts and nipples, the genitals, and the lips.
Surprisingly, when it comes to breasts, they have the same number of nerve endings no matter how large they are! This means, that smaller breasts are actually more sensitive, while larger breasts can be stimulated more forcefully. And of course, caressing the chest and paying particular attention to the nipples is also a very pleasurable experience for your male companion.

Did you know that many women are actually more sensitive on the lips than on their vagina and clitoris? But this is only the scientific finding. If your experience tells you otherwise, trust your own body and not the scientists! 😉

When it comes to men, the penis is the pleasure centre. Particularly, the head and foreskin, as well as the testicles. Whatever you do, be careful not to hurt his best part. And expect the same respect when it comes to your centre of lust. If he does not get it right the first time, guide him. It will enable you to have a more pleasurable experience, and I’m sure he will enjoy you being in command. 😉

So, now that you have a rough idea of where to explore your body to find erogenous zones, you might still be asking HOW to do so. Well, there are virtually endless possibilities. What feels good will differ from body part to body part, so experiment and communicate with your partner.

To start with, try some of these: touching, caressing, breathing, whispering, kissing, licking, sucking, biting… To make it even more exciting, use a feather to tickle, touch the skin with an ice cube (start on less sensitive parts!) or apply some warming or cooling lubricant to enhance the sensation.

I found a cute map online, where the most common erogenous zones are shown. It also comes with hints and tips on how to stimulate each zone, so have a quick look and start experimenting!

Yours,

Nomi

Myths about vibrators

We all have probably already heard or read some arguments why we should not be pleasing ourselves with sex toys. Apparently, there are people who would rather not have us use them at all, mostly out of fear. You possibly know that something that feels so good cannot be bad for you, but I still would like to respond to some of the most common myths about vibrators:

Sex toys can cause damage to your body.
If you are using your vibrator many times a day, every day, like any repetitive behavior, your body may start to get used to it. Applying strong, direct pressure on any part of the body can cause the surrounding tissue to feel numb, but this is only a temporary condition. In terms of sensation, there is no evidence that vibrators cause any permanent change in physical sensitivity. If you experience acclimatization to your vibe’s stimulation, try masturbating with different levels of pressure, do only use your hands or any soft non-vibrating objects you like, and vary the frequency of use.

Sex toys are addictive.
Addiction implies harm, and there is nothing harmful about using sex toys (as long as they’re used properly). It’s true that people can become used to using sex toys, and even come to rely on them, but there is no “withdrawal” and anyone can easily get themselves back to masturbation or partner sex without sex toys. People who suggest that vibrator addiction is real tend to be people who think that any sex toy use is too much sex toy use.

There’s a very human propensity to become familiar with a particular form of stimulation. Whether it’s cunnilingus from your partner, or vaginal penetration from your dildo, there are some forms of stimulation you count on to get you off. You can become addicted to your vibrator just as easily as you become addicted to a particular practice with your partner. It can happen, but you are not helpless to control and change it. Experiment with new positions, new toys, and new activities. Keep trying new things and you’ll never be sexually dependent on any one particular practice.

Sex toys are only for people who have a bad sex life, or no sex life.
Everyone and anyone you can image is the kind of person who uses sex toys. In fact, research on vibrator use suggests that people who are having sex use sex toys more than those who aren’t, and that between 20-30% of people have used sex toys at least once in their lives. The use of sex toys has become common for men and women. Many couples use sex toys during sexual intercourse.

If a woman has a sex toy, she won’t need a man.
Sex toys are not replacements for people. A sex toy won’t cuddle or tell you how much it loves you. Many men are intimidated by sex toys because they have been raised with the idea that the most important thing about them is what’s between their legs. These myths about male sexuality sink in early, and as a result most men are insecure about their sexual importance. Also, let’s remember that there are lots of women who don’t want a man in the first place, and a sex toy isn’t going to change that one way or the other.

There are bad sex toys and good sex toys.
Except for a few sex toys that pose obvious risks, there is no such thing as a “good” or “bad” sex toy. Sex toys are whatever you do with them. A vibrator that would be too strong, too heavy, and painful for one person might be just perfect for another. A dildo that feels sticky and looks weird to one might be the ideal shape, size and texture for another. The trick is to find the sex toy that’s right for you.

There are even more good news:
– Women using vibrators experience better sexual function and a more satisfying sex life. Vibrators have been linked to higher levels of arousal, increased libido and more frequent orgasms.
– Most women (71,5%) reported never having experienced any side effects associated with vibrator use. The rare side effects reported were typically of very short duration.
– Almost half (44,8%) of all heterosexual and homosexual men have already incorporated a vibrator into sexual activities.
– Men who used vibrators recently scored themselves higher on four of the five domains of sexual function (erectile function, intercourse satisfaction, orgasmic function and sexual desire).

So, spread the word that using sex toys is a lot of fun and enhances your sex life in general, and, most importantly, enjoy yourself and keep experimenting!

Yours,

Nomi Tang