Don’t worry, I won’t tell you that you SHOULD use a vibrator or any other sex toy. This is far from my intention as I see sexuality as a highly personal aspect of one’s life, and nobody is able to tell what is right or wrong except for your own intuition and from what feels right for you.
But as you frequent this blog, I guess the thought about using a vibrator might already have crossed your mind. 🙂
There are various reasons why one might use a vibrator, and various situations to do so. Maybe you are looking for some new excitement for your solo play? Or are keen on trying something different together with your partner? Or you have simply been recommended to use one by a friend of yours and want to try it out of pure curiosity?
Now matter why you are thinking about using a vibrator, I encourage you to do so, as it will enhance your sex life and allows you to get to know your body even better. Worldwide about 25% of all women own at least one vibrator, and in the Western world numbers rise up to 50% and higher! So many women cannot be wrong. 😉
If you plan on using a vibrator for the first time, I suggest you to go for a model designed for clitoral stimulation. This allows you to get used to the handling and different buttons that are common to most sex toys, without having to think about the right size of the toy, your body’s reaction upon insertion or hitting the G-Spot.
Before you start, make sure you have plenty of time to try the toy and explore your body, and that you are in the right mood. Generally, the same advise that I gave last time concerning setting the mood for masturbation applies here. After all, it’s just sex (solo or with a partner), but with a toy.
Of course, there is no “right” way to use a vibrator, just do what feels right for you. But if you have never used one before, here are some hints to make it an enjoyable experience:
1. Use an antibacterial wet wipe or warm soapy water to clean the outside of your toy. If you picked a model that is not waterproof, be careful not to get any water near the battery compartment. Of course this does not apply to my range of vibrators.
2. Get to know your new toy by playing around with the switches and buttons. Make yourself familiar with the different
speeds and vibration patterns it offers.
3. Even if you plan on using a vibrator together with your partner, it might be easier to start on your own. You will feel more self-conscious and won’t be distracted 😉
4. Before turning the vibrator on, touch your body with it turned off. Thereby you get a feel for the sensations the material gives you when it touches your skin. This might also be the moment to decide if you want to apply some lubricant to make the toy slide better over your skin. Please be aware that most toys are made from silicone and should therefore only be used with water-based lubricant to avoid damages of the outer material.
5. Turn your vibrator on and try how the different patterns feel all over your body. Even though vibrators are used mostly around the vulva and clitoris, try slowly moving the vibrator up your inner thigh or in circles around your breasts and nipples before proceeding to your most sensitive parts.
6. Don’t rush! Take your time and explore every inch of your body for sexual pleasure. Experiment with the different speed and pulsation settings. Apply different pressure to your body parts and vary between pointing the tip of the vibrator or the flattest part of it against your body.
7. If you want to use your vibrator for penetration and it’s safe for this purpose (that is no rough edges, and not absorbing body fluids), I recommend to apply some water-based lubricant to the vibrator itself as well as your labia and vagina.
8. When you feel ready to go for it, start slowly with the penetration. Experiment and find out what feels best for you. Some women engage in the search for the famous G-Spot, others stimulate their clitoris indirectly by pressing the vibrator towards the belly.
9. After you stopped playing, clean your toy with antibacterial wet wipes and warm water, take the batteries out (to prevent corrosion) and store it in a clean place (some toys come with a handy storage pouch).
Seems complicated? Don’t worry, once you are in the mood and start experimenting it will be natural. And trust me, it only seems kinky the first time! 🙂
Enjoy,
Nomi Tang
Nothing beats a romantic Getaway to leave the everyday routine behind and spend some time far away from work stress. Wherever your special place may be and no matter if you go there solo or with a lucky someone, my Getaway vibe will be by your side. What’s your favorite Getaway?
Nomi Tang 